Monday, November 11, 2013

A Fond and Frank Farewell

This, my friends, is the last reflection you shall be reading for the class of Dr. Dan Williams.
That, however, does not mean it will be great or innovative in any way.  In fact, this will probably be one of the more boring ones, for in this one I am going to take the theme of reflection and learning seriously.  How shall I do that?  Thank you for asking.  Today I’m going to look at what I’ve learned in college so far, and how I have changed in the three months I’ve been here.
The answer to that latter question would have to be not much.  Not much at all.  I am still the same person as when I left home.  I haven’t changed the slightest.  That may or may not be a good thing.  I guess it would depend on who you’re asking.  Personally I think there’s nothing wrong with that, because I was happy with who I was when I came here and I’m still happy with that person.  I could be better, sure.  We can always be better. The thing is that I could be a heck of a lot worse.  I could be on drugs and failing all my classes, but I’m not. 
Having established that I’m not any worse than before, it now begs the question of whether or not I’m any better.  I am somewhat more knowledgeable, and I use the word somewhat with a purpose.  This being first semester and all, my classes are intros and beginnings.  Merely a step past common sense (except math, math just isn’t common sense at all).  The things I’m learning are basically fine-tuning what I already know about these subjects, not to mention giving me bigger and more sophisticated words with which to describe these topics to everyone back home. That isn’t to say that it’s not interesting, just that I haven’t made any enormous leaps in my education this semester.  Except with humor.  My knowledge on that subject has skyrocketed and I’ve been so very fascinated with it (I still hate Morreall).  I also have greater appreciation for Canada (well, as much as you can for Canada).  However dismissive I might sound, though, these classes have given me a solid foundation for next semester, something I very much needed.
So in knowledge we have improvement, how about other areas?  As a person am I better?  The same?  Maybe even a tad worse?  What has this experience shown me?
I have discovered that I am much more of a loner than I had thought.  I would have to say that it is a side effect of my homeschooling, because the only other option is that I’m a natural recluse.  While I don’t deny that, for it may be true, I prefer to consider it a conditioning rather than a natural born tendency.  Either way, it is there.  I avoid people. 
Not to the point where I don’t leave my room except for classes, but there have been more than a few times when I have not gone to the BLUU simply because I did not want to come in contact with people.  Many times I have sat down with a book or TV show rather than go out amongst the masses.
Sometimes I don’t know why I’m like that.  It’s not that I hate people.  Quite the opposite.  I thoroughly enjoy hanging out with my friends and meeting new ones.  Most of the time.  Then something happens and socializing sounds like the most unappealing thing in the world.
If I take a good, long, honest look at myself, I can find why that is, and it is a self-centered reason.  People have problems.  People talk about their problems.  People unrealistically represent their problems and shift the fault to everyone except themselves.  That’s what friendship is for.  To have people who will listen to your problems.  And there are times I simply have zero desire to listen to those problems.
What about going to the BLUU though?  There’s no direct contact needed there, right?  Well, to put it bluntly, I am so very arrogant.  You may not be able to tell right off, if ever, but I am.  I see the world differently than most people, and I have a low tolerance for those who cannot see.  People talk about their problems and I see the solutions.  Almost always it is directly in front of their faces.  It isn’t a problem with someone or something else, it is a problem with the way the complainer acts and/or lives daily.  Whatever it is, it is clashing with something else in my troubled friend’s life, causing his (or her) problem and he (screw gender correctness) is unable to humble himself enough to acknowledge this and fix it.  Nothing I say will help, for the last thing anyone wants to do after complaining about a problem and berating all those involved is to admit that they were the problem in the beginning. 
Thus I nod.  I smile.  I say the appropriately sympathetic things.  For I know that if I say what I am thinking, it won’t be received.  So I live on in silence, convinced that I am, overall, more intelligent that the majority of those I meet, young and old alike and only proven wrong in a few rare cases.  This was something I had suspected about myself earlier, but my college experience has confirmed it for me. 

Now I shall bid you adieu.  From my reflections, at least.  I hope you enjoyed them, for I have been remarkably frank herein.  

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